“Facing problems is inevitable, but being defeated is a choice.’’
I have been a very ambitious, independent and career oriented kind of person right from my school days. Life was as ‘perfect’ as I had dreamt – a great job, lots of foreign trips, financial independence it was all there. Then, out of the blue I was hit with a dilema when I got married and my spouse had a transferable job. Initially, we stayed separate since we were married to our jobs more than each other – then it became too difficult to stay alone. It was a time to take some hard hitting decisions. That was it – I was home gaping at the walls, unable to either take part in petty conversations nor party like most of the people around did. My ‘self created’ world came crashing down like a pack of cards. Not only was my self confidence going down but also my bank balance dwindling. Never did I imagine that there would be days when I would not be working or earning.
After a good eight years gap, I met someone who offered me some work from home for her venture. I was so apprehensive that I could do anything, other than domestic chores. However, I did give it a try on her insistence. Over time, I would get compliments like “you are doing exceptionally well”, “great job” which made me beam. Now I know that if given a chance I can bounce back to my ‘original self’ whenever needed.
Time is like a flowing river, you can never touch the same water or time again. I know the years I have lost have gone forever, but they gave me some me some wonderful lessons which I would have never gotten otherwise. Most importantly, I now know that everything is temporary. The depressions or thoughts we have today will change tomorrow. Nothing is constant and every challenge we face is actually a lesson in disguise. Facing problems or challenges is inevitable but being defeated is a choice. Make the right choice, face the challenge and never give up!
-Sucharitha Karri
